If you’ve ever frozen mid-scene wondering, “Wait, what do I actually say?” — don’t worry. You’re not alone. Giving praise during kink or sex can feel a little awkward at first, especially if you’re new to it or grew up thinking words like “good girl” were just for dogs.
But the truth is, praise is powerful. It builds connection, reinforces behavior, boosts confidence, and turns up the heat — all with a few well-chosen words.
Whether you’re a dominant looking to encourage your submissive, a switch exploring your brat-taming era, or a praise-loving sub who wants to send this to your partner with a wink, we’ve got you covered.
🔥 The Basics: Classic Praise Phrases
Let’s start with some go-to lines that work in nearly any scene or dynamic:
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“You’re doing such a good job.”
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“That’s it. Just like that.”
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“You make me so proud.”
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“You’re being so brave for me.”
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“I love how you listen.”
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“That feels so good.”
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“You take that so well.”
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“You’re making me very happy right now.”
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“Keep going, baby. You’ve got this.”
💋 For the Good Girls, Good Boys, and Good Pets
Sometimes a simple, affectionate label is the sexiest thing you can hear:
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“Good girl.” / “Good boy.” / “Good pet.”
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“Such a well-behaved little thing.”
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“Look at you, being so obedient.”
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“That’s my good [insert dynamic title].”
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“You're so eager to please, aren't you?”
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“You’re my favorite toy.”
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“You make being in charge so easy.”
💞 Soft & Affirming Praise
Perfect for caregiver dynamics, aftercare, or nurturing D/s relationships:
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“You’re safe. I’ve got you.”
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“I’m so proud of you for telling me that.”
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“You did everything I asked. You’re incredible.”
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“You’re such a gift to me.”
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“It’s okay to let go. You’re allowed to feel this.”
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“You’re more than enough, just as you are.”
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“You’re not just sexy — you’re strong and special.”
😈 Spicy, Filthy Praise
Want to mix praise with a little heat or degradation? Try these:
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“Such a perfect little slut for me.”
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“You love being used, don’t you?”
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“You’re dripping just from my voice. That’s adorable.”
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“You take my cock/fingers/toys like you were made for it.”
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“I could do this to you all night.”
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“You’re so fucking hot when you obey.”
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“That whimper? That’s my new favorite sound.”
💪 Praise for Doms and Tops Too!
Submissives aren’t the only ones who like hearing they’re doing well. Praise can flow upward too:
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“Thank you for guiding me so well.”
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“I feel so safe in your hands.”
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“You know exactly how to push my buttons.”
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“I love obeying you.”
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“You look so powerful like this.”
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“You’re everything I want in a dom.”
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“I’m lucky to be yours.”
✨ Tips for Using Praise Well
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Be genuine. Praise feels best when it’s authentic and in the moment.
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Tailor it. Use pet names, titles, or dynamic-specific language.
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Mix it up. Try both soft and spicy praise — see what hits hardest.
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Use tone and timing. Whisper it, growl it, purr it — whatever fits your dynamic.
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Check in. After a scene, ask your partner what kind of praise they liked most.
Final Thoughts
Praise isn't just about words — it’s about attention, intention, and emotional intimacy. Whether you're whispering sweet nothings or commanding obedience with a grin, a little praise can go a long way.
So go ahead. Tell them they’re amazing. Tell them they’re hot. Tell them they’re yours.
They deserve it — and maybe you do too.